I was so disappointed by Brooke White's performance last night on American Idol.
After her amazing rendition of 'Let it Be' in early March, she's gone on to have two pretty bad weeks.
Contrast Brooke to David Cook. After he was roundly criticized by the judges, David went right on picking the right song, the right arrangement.
Why is Brooke, in my opinion, having difficulty?
Because she's giving her power away to the judges.
In the article Do Women Lack Ambition?, Cornell psychologist Anna Fels writes that our cultural ideals of femininity do not include women asking for resources, whether those resources involve time, money, praise.
Until last night, I hadn't considered the possibility that power was a resource.
Yet in trusting the judges more than herself, Brooke has given away her power.
And David Cook hasn't.
Men generally don't.
They listen -- Yes -- but they also seem to do a better job of trusting themselves.
We can learn from them.
Because when we do trust ourselves, we move to the center of our story, becoming the hero....Like Brooke did when she sang Let it be.
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be.
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.
P.S. If you want to read some great commentary by vocal coach Macy Robison on each week's American Idol, click here.
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