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April 16, 2007


just wanted to say-- You rock. You are absolutely right to do what you did. Justice vs mercy-- hmm...

"Various intermediate assignments" and requirements like a bibliography were part of the project. Stressing to him that if he had done them that he'd have received a 92 is right on! He did great! He did "A" work, had "A" thought and is an "A" student who missed the requirements and so he didn't get the "A" because, aside from how brilliant he is, he didn't do what was required-- and next time when he does these requirements he will get his "A," because he is so capable. So it's just a matter of choice now.

This is turing into a long thought but: "There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated— And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated." D&C 130:20-21. Meaning we receive blessings by obeying God's laws and when we obey God's laws there are blessings that go with it. Blessings can be spiritual, temporal or just lessons of growing up. Now David knows the importance of "intermediate assignments" and that is huge. Life is rarely all or nothing, "intermediate assignments" (like this lesson) are key. No amount of rationalization can undo the "law, irrevocably decreed." That is what our spirits fought for before we came here-- this is why we are here and choice and accountability is pivotal to God's plan: to make us great-- Like him.

You did the right thing. We ALL do things that we are proud of that turn out to be a flop. Maybe we knock ourselves out cooking a special dinner and no one but us in our family likes it! Or we write a speech that we know is going to be fantastic and wow our audience...and receive only mediocre response. Such is life...but isnt it great that you were there for the were there to talk to him about it and discuss why he got a 79. That is what parenting is all about! Its about teaching your children to do their best and if you dont do so well...then you learn from it and dust yourself off and move on. And that means you go to school like you would have if you had gotten a 99! And if a doughnut puts a smile on that unhappy child's face, then bring it on!

Sometimes we have to be "on the hook". It is what helps us the next time we have a project at school, or a speech to write, or a meal to cook. We think about the time we didnt do so well and we do better.

Oh...and you didnt mention in your blog that David's pet lizard died that day as well!

Kathy and Kathleen --

Thank you for your thoughts. Both encouraging and insightful!

You know I had completely forgotten about the David's lizard dying -- and Kathy you definitely need to do an "Around the campfire" blog this summer.

My best to both --


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