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April 17, 2011


I'm so grateful you've continued your Sunday postings! I loved this story. I sat in front of David one Sunday and was blown away by his beautiful voice. Listening him sing with you was a lovely duet amidst the crowd. Good for him. Better for you.

Whitney, thank you for sharing your experience. I also really liked the post that you wrote four years ago (linked from this post in second para). I realized how in our efforts to encourage and protect our children, we sometimes end up discouraging them and conveying less than full trust. The words, "don't be discouraged if you don't get it" doesn't help anyone!

The lessons are so important for all of us as parents. Thanks.

I see myself in this post. I have done the same thing and am a recovering 'shielder'. I like Abigail's image of filling in the circle. As I was struggling with 'helping' a friend asked me: "do you believe God has a plan for [insert child]?" (rhetorical) "Is YOUR plan better?"

Wow, I actually remember that post from years ago.

I am curious to see how I handle the temptation to gently push my girl into all the things I'd love her to do.

Great post! So wonderful how you apologized and admitted your error.

Well I don't have any kids, and still feel like a kid myself (even at 30..ha!) Still, it's amazing the power that comes from one perceived "adult" in your life saying: "Yes, you can do that, I believe in you." It gives you permission to try. Subsequent failure is inevitable I suppose...but so satisfying to try and fail! And one person's belief kick-starts the whole human process. Funny that I still need permission sometimes. Maybe someday I'll get past that.

PS this blog has become a secret delight in my secret garden (a place to escape to out of the mundane)...thanks!

Thank you so much for posting this, Whitney. It's interesting to think that in trying to save our children form hurt, we can hurt them none-the-less. What strikes me is that this can feel defeating (damned if you do, damned if you don't), or enlightening, depending on how you decide to integrate it. Which is something I have been thinking about a lot lately: how we integrate our experiences and the internal dialogue we choose to engage in around them. Thanks, as always, for the different vantage point!

I heard that the production was amazing, and that David was incredible. Wish I could've seen it. I think it's wonderful of you even to realize what you're doing when you talk to your children--so many of us don't think about the conversation after it's passed. Or we do, but don't know what to say to make it better. Good for you for communicating at all, whether or not you get it perfect the first time!

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